Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Here are some of the most frequently asked questions and answers about Grief and Loss Therapy - If you have a question that isn’t covered by this FAQ, reach out and take advantage of a FREE Consultation!
What's the difference between The Grief Resolution Process™ and Mainstream Therapy/CBT?

With the techniques that are brought together in The Grief Resolution Process™, the principle is to help people become more consciously aware and shift the patterns that stem from the unconscious that underly emotions and thoughts. While both CBT and NLP/Other rapid-change technologies acknowledge the link between thought, feelings and actions/behaviour, the challenge for CBT is that most thought is unconscious and CBT does not work with the unconscious mind - CBT only helps people build a conscious understanding of these connections. Most often, grief and loss related thoughts and emotions ‘run away’ with us, and before we know it, the ‘effects’ or ‘pattern’ is running at full pelt and to try and work with the problem, only with a conscious based framework like CBT, at this stage is very hard. CBT looks to discover the triggers and behaviours so that more useful strategies can be developed which is helpful on one level, but not as helpful as understanding and working with the unconscious patterns involved with overwhelming grief, loss and trauma.

CBT has some similarities with NLP/Other rapid-change technologies share a similar philosophy - the content of our thoughts have a major influence on our emotions and behaviour. However CBT and NLP/Other rapid-change technologies differ in the way they help their clients – CBT looks to help you make sense of the problems you may be experiencing in the moment by using the framework to consciously think of changes you can possibly make, whereas NLP/Other rapid-change technologies look to change the underlying patterns/strategies and cognitive constructs in the subconscious that fuel the painful grief/loss related emotions so you are free of them.

CBT critics talk about the fact that ‘at best CBT delivers inconsistent results’ – you will find some people who believe CBT made huge differences for them and on the other end of the scale those that say it did nothing for them. My belief is that CBT’s biggest limitation is it’s reliance on the conscious mind, which is also acknowledged by many CBT authors who recommend ‘the need of consistent practice’. With CBT, you try to change an emotional response consciously (which some say 21 days of consistent practice, and even then for some it doesn’t work) vs. NLP/Other rapid-change technologies which can change are free up emotions in as few as 2 sessions (and not days/weeks/months on end).

How does your therapy work?

The Grief Resolution Process™ causes change by initially improving one’s understanding and relationship between cognitive, emotional and behavioural patterns that express in the conscious mind, but have their basis in the unconscious. Specifically, it targets the major sources of your grief, loss and trauma with highly-specialised techniques based on interacting with, and the real-time change of, the Internal Representational Systems aka The A/V/K System (audio/visual/kinaesthetic).

These internal representational systems are the way we make sense of the external world and also are the basis of how our thoughts, memories and emotions present in our reality - now and into your future. The targeting and utilisation of the Internal Representational Systems enables us to classify and assess the particular ways the painful grief, loss and trauma emotions play out in your reality and thus, opening up the ability to change and free up our painful emotions.

In short, your emotions and associated ‘meaning’ (for e.g: longing, feeling alone, no hope for the future, can’t live without them etc) are formulated on and by your Internal Representational Systems, so, if we change them, we change (and free up) emotions and ‘meaning’.

What are the benefits of therapy/The Grief Resolution Process™?

The benefits of therapy are specific to your situation and goals and we tailor our interventions to your unique needs and desired outcomes. More specifically, The Grief Resolution Process™ can help you resolve your grief and loss for good. You will become more peaceful, grounded, and pain-free as together, we address the underlying issues, memories and people that are contributing to your overwhelming thoughts and emotions. Our process allows you to explore your struggles without judgment: to be totally uncensored and unfiltered so you can explore and integrate the issues that you might not feel comfortable sharing with others. Dealing with grief, loss and trauma can help create a greater sense of vitality as you reconnect with the parts of yourself that may have become numb and disconnected. Through our processes, you can learn more empowered ways to communicate, develop practices to cultivate self-love and confidence, and resolve and heal your trauma and emotional problems.

How can I get the most out of my therapy?

The three most important things to do to get the most out of therapy are to be open to feedback, be honest, and to be clear about your goals. Therapy is a collaborative process and you and your practiser will work together to create a plan that helps you expand your self-awareness, resolve and alleviate what is overwhelming you, and find greater clarity and hope. Having clear goals and being honest are crucial factors in getting the most out of therapy. It’s important to understand that facing our grief and loss is the foundational aspect of healing and thriving after such pain. While this kind of therapy can be seem painful and scary, The Grief Resolution Process™ is a gentle and client-centred process that creates resiliency, vitality, and freedom, allowing us to smile again and look forward to the future.

Will therapy/The Grief Resolution Process™ work for me?

While there are no guarantees, over 95% of our clients have had complete resolution of their issues with 2 sessions. Like anything else in life, the chances that you’ll succeed are directly related to your commitment, desire, and efforts. If you allow yourself to be open to the process, create clear goals, and be honest with your practitioner, you’ll have the best shot of getting the help you need.

How will I feel when I finish The Grief Resolution Process?

Like anything else in life, what you put in will determine what you get out. How you will feel at the end of treatment depends on your specific goals and drive and how dedicated you are to working on yourself to achieve them. For over 95% of our clients, they feel pain-free when they think and feel into the issue(s) that brought them to the therapy. All associated self-limiting beliefs that were associated with the issue(s) are also transformed.

Two examples:

  • If the pain is from death of a loved one, they are able to immerse themselves in the good times and happy emotions they had with that special someone instead of dwelling on the pain of them no longer being with us.
  • If we are healing a relationship breakdown, the client feels free to start dating again and are no-longer plagued with missing the relationship that has ended and spiralling into negative thoughts and emotions that are connected to their ex-partner.
How long will it all take?

Usually the issues are resolved in as little as 2 sessions and in some cases we have been able to successfully deliver on the client’s stated goals in just 1 session. Sessions usually last 1 hour and if we need to go over time, then (within reason) we do so without charging extra. That being said, everyone’s journey and treatment plan plays out differently and the timeline depends on a wide range of factors including what issues you are addressing and how quickly you make progress.

What happens during the free consultation call?

During the free consultation call, you have the opportunity to see if we are the right fit for you prior to scheduling your sessions. Depending on your practitioner, this may be up to 15-20 minutes and sometimes more. Use this call to ask your us questions and allow us to get a sense of who you are, what your goals are, and what you are struggling with. Once we have an understanding of your goals and issues, we will discuss fees and other logistical information such as scheduling and other logistics (online or in person etc). If you have any hesitations about starting therapy in general, don’t be afraid to be open about that as well. Your potential practitioner can address any doubts and help put your mind at ease.

What happens during the initial session?

How your initial session goes depends on your practitioner, your goals, and the processes the practitioner is using. Typically, practitioner will use your first session to gather your history, and explore your struggles, and establish your treatment goals and depending on all that, will start your treatment. Your therapist will meet you wherever you are on your journey, and will respect your level of comfort in sharing personal issues.

Do I have to lie on a couch?

No. But you can if you want to. Typically you will be sitting on a couch or chair across from your practitioner.

Do we have to talk about my childhood?

Not usually. If there’s value in exploring your childhood, your practitioner will let you know and will tell you why in detail. Then you can decide - you will never be forced to talk about something that makes you feel uncomfortable. It’s all about responding to your needs, preferences, and what is most helpful for you.

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